AmbiorixBradan
Trust man - 45 jaar, Kapellen ( Bosduin ), België
Blog 47
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In-Between Times / Exploring Our Readiness
Exploring Our Readiness
In-Between Times
It could be argued that life is more about the time spent waiting for something to happen than it is about something happening. What this means is that the big events in our lives are preceded by many days and nights of dreaming, planning, organizing, and waiting. The times of waiting in between the big events actually constitute the majority of our lives. These in-between times are anything but uneventful. In fact, they are rich with possibility and filled with opportunities for reflection and preparation. Like a pregnant woman awaiting the birth of her child, we have a finite period of time in which to prepare internally and externally for the upcoming event that will define a new chapter in our lives.
When we find ourselves in an in-between time, we often can’t help but feel impatient for the impending event. We just want to get to the future and have the new baby, the new job, or the new house. And yet, there is a reason a pregnancy takes nine months to fulfill itself. Nature provides the expectant parents with this time so that they can prepare the nest. This preparation plays out on many levels. Materially, a space must be created in the home and resources must be set aside for the baby’s future; psychologically, a shift must occur in which the psyches of both parents agree to be responsible for a new life in the world; and emotionally, the heart must open wider to embrace and fulfill a new love.
Whenever you find yourself in such a time of waiting, you might want spend time exploring your material, psychological, and emotional readiness. For example, if you are preparing to move to a new city, you could make a list of things you’d like to do in the city you will be leaving behind, and go to your favorite places and spend time with old friends. This way, you will remain fully engaged in the present as you await your future, savoring the in-between time as a vital experience in itself. -
Soul Mates and Soul Families
Soul Mates and Soul Families
There is much conjecture and misunderstanding concerning this subject. When most of you speak of a soul mate, you are thinking of that one special individual that you will fall in love with and with whom you will live happily ever after. You may even feel as if this one special love has always been your lover through many, many lifetimes and that you are simply awaiting his or her appearance in this lifetime.
Many souls do encounter one another in lifetime after lifetime after lifetime, for they have become friends. This friendship is based in the non- physical world, and the friendship, which in essence is co-operation, is based upon their past success in achieving the growth they are seeking. You see, you are growth- seeking beings, and all encounters, both physical and non-physical, provide opportunities for growth. Therefore, if there is a certain soul with whom you have had great success in achieving your goals, you are likely to agree to work with that one again.
It is important to understand how souls are organized. Your journeys here into the physical world are deliberate journeys. You have already mastered life on many other planes of existence, and your purpose for coming to Earth is simply so that you may broaden your experience of yourself through the Earth existence. The ultimate goal is to experience unconditional love, that which is acceptance and allowing. For as you totally accept Earth life and accept all the aspects of it and all that exists within it, you have reached your goal. Some have called this enlightenment. You see, you didn't come here to get better or to prove yourself worthy; you came here for the fun of it, for the game, for the challenge.
Before such journeys are undertaken, souls organize themselves into groups. You could see these as support groups. Souls organize themselves into Families, Groups, Clans, Nations, and Grand Nations. There are seven souls in a Soul Family and seven families in a Soul Group, and seven groups in a Soul Clan, and so on. Eventually, you will work with most members of your Soul Clan, that is 343 individual souls. However, for those of you who are teachers, you will more than likely reach your Soul Nation or Grand Nation, which totals almost 17,000 souls.
The majority of your relationships, close friendships, and associations will be with souls who are from your Group of 49 souls. However, this is not always the case. The more you advance in terms of acceptance (love), the more skilled you will become at working with individuals who have a different energy signature than yourselves. What we mean by energy signature is the following: each Soul Group will be working towards a particular goal.
For example, many members of one Soul Group could be concerned with communication and teaching, another with healing, another with courage, another with self- acceptance. This does not mean that each of you will manifest in the same way and lead identical lives, but it does mean that the essence of your lives will be very similar. You will have similar ideals, aspirations, likes, and dislikes. The people you are most drawn to are almost always members of your Soul Family, Group, Clan or Nation, but as with everything, there are exceptions to the rule.
A Soul Family will work together for many, many lifetimes. Sometimes a Soul Family will regroup and different alliances will be made. This is rare, but it happens. In addition, the entire Soul Family will be involved in decision making regarding future lifetimes and will assist you in assessing your achievements in a lifetime just past. Your Soul Family is always there for you. For the most part, not all members of a Soul Family are incarnate at the same time. Those members who are not incarnate act as spirit guides during the physical life of the one who is incarnate. They can visit you in dreams, inspire you with thoughts, or in some cases, speak to you directly during meditation. Many of the spirit guides that have presented themselves to humans are indeed discarnate souls who are members of the individual's Soul Family. However, many of the Master Teachers that present themselves to humans are either members of the individual's Nation or Grand Nation and are souls whose Earth experience is complete. At times these Master Teachers can be souls that are even broader and vaster than this.
A soul mate is any soul that is a member of this broader group and anyone that touches your life. The net effect of a soul mate on your life will always be positive, even if you cannot see it at the time. For example, many have the notion that a soul mate relationship will be the ideal relationship, full of harmony and love. However, a relationship with a soul mate is likely to be challenging!
The whole point of a soul mate turning up in your life is to show you to yourself. That is the purpose of all human relationships. You learn through viewing in the mirror. The Law of Attraction works in every aspect of your life, and therefore each person drawn into your life is there through vibration, and nothing else. They are present because your vibration and their vibration are matched in some way.
As we have said before, you are growth-seeking beings. So many of you get confused when you meet the person of your dreams, fall happily in love, declare, "This is my soul mate," and then have to pick up the pieces a few years down the road when the relationship breaks up or the person you loved turns out to have some problems or personality traits you do not care for. However, this was your soul mate, and you have many!
As you re-enter each lifetime, you make agreements with many different souls, perhaps as many as 20. You agree on what you will offer one another. These souls can be your children, your best friend, husband, wife, worst enemy, boss, business partner, any number of possibilities, and even the schoolteacher that encouraged you with patience and kindness. However, as you, the personality, have free will, you may create a path that takes you in a different direction, and this is why you have to make possible agreements with so many. The Universe works on the principle of vibration.
Let us give you an example: There is Joe who is a fine soul indeed. However Joe, for quite a few lifetimes now, has been struggling with powerlessness in the physical realm. His struggle has led him into violence and even to developing addictions to alcohol. Mary, on the other hand, for some time now has had difficulties in valuing herself, always choosing second best, and always giving her power away. So Joe and Mary coordinate their lives and set up a strong probability to meet. Their intention is that Mary and Joe will fall in love and work towards resolving their respective issues. In her relationship with the alcoholic Mary will learn that she must begin to make choices that reflect her self-worth. Joe, on the other hand, wants to learn that he cannot possess or control anyone, for power must come from within. However, Mary finds herself often challenged during the course of her life, and at college the establishment challenges her ideas and values. Instead of capitulating, as was her custom in previous lives, she stands up for herself and chooses to value herself. At that moment her vibration changes and therefore Joe is no longer necessary.
It could happen that she may meet Joe, but it would more than likely be a passing meeting and one in which she could share with him what she had learned. She may indeed end up being the counselor at an alcohol rehabilitation center, for example, but Mary no longer requires an intimate relationship with Joe. At this stage both Joe and Mary set up new vibrations so that they connect with their other possible soul mates.
When you look back at your life, you will see there are many people who have had an impact on it. All of these people are your soul mates, and whether they know it or not on the personality level, they love you dearly for you are all working together towards one singular goal, and that is the goal of love.
"When we meet someone and an instant friendship or attraction occurs, does that mean that this is a soul mate and that we have been together in past lives?"
What it means is that there is compatibility in vibration, and this generally means that there is a connection of sorts. Whether that soul be from your Soul Family, Group, Clan, or Nation, there is a connection, a similarity of goal, purpose, experience, and therefore vibration. However, this connection on the soul level does not automatically indicate that you have met before. You may never have met on the Earth plane, but the soul may be known to you in the non-physical world. You do spend rather more time in the non-physical than you do in the physical, for the non-physical world is your natural home. In the non-physical world you have friends in very much the same way that you have friends on Earth. Some friends are close to you, others are intimately acquainted with you, and still others are acquaintances. Friendship in the non-physical world has nothing to do with liking or not liking one another; it has to do with compatibility of goals and aspirations. Your non-physical friends also change, and they change according to your goals.
For example, you may have teamed up with a particular small group of souls to work on survival issues. Each of you have had a few lives together in inhospitable environments. You may have chosen to live in primitive cultures in very cold climates or in desert regions. Such inhospitable environments help you to become resourceful, inventive, creative, and self-sufficient. You may however, choose to return to this adventure at a later stage and not complete all of your 'learning' in one go. Or, you may progress at a faster pace than your group members and decide to move on. Another choice could be to remain with the group and become a leader or teacher amongst them, assisting them to progress, which in turn assists you to progress even further for there is much learning to be done whilst teaching. The possibilities are endless and the choice is yours. If you decide to move on, you will join another group, or perhaps work with one or two other souls. Your work with other souls may last one Earth day, an entire lifetime, or several hundred lifetimes. You choose all of these relationships, and each relationship is based on cooperation and the desire to progress as quickly as possible.
"Are our parents and children Soul Mates and are they part of our Soul Family?"
They are soul mates inasmuch as you not only know them, but you have chosen to work with them for the specific purpose of achieving growth. No birth is an accident, for all souls enter this world by agreement with both parents, even if both parents are not present in childhood.
Your parents and siblings may very well all be members of your Soul Family, but this is extremely rare. Normally, one, perhaps two, members of your biological family will be from your Soul Family, but the rest will generally be from your Group, Clan, Nation, or Grand Nation.
For the creation of a physical family the younger, less experienced souls will tend to team up with souls that are very closely related to them. These souls will often swap roles with one another from lifetime to lifetime, sometimes being the child, at other times the parent, at one time the female, at another time the male mate. The familiarity of the souls, one with another, helps each individual soul to progress more quickly. When souls first enter the physical plane, it seems to them to be a hostile place indeed. They are confused and wary of the physical body and are very susceptible to the biological impulse to survive. They are often caught up in fight or flight choices. The Universe is loving and supportive, and therefore it creates feelings of security to be surrounded by souls with whom you are very familiar. However, as with everything in the Universe, this is only general. It is not a hard and fast rule, for older souls can and do enter into these kinds of arrangements.
Many older souls choose to be born into families where perhaps only one member is well known to them, and perhaps this soul is from their Soul Group or Clan, not as closely related as a Soul Family member. They will make this choice because older souls are really concerned with introspection more than anything else. They may be preparing to teach or to become a leader in one field or another, and the experience of feeling 'the odd one out' will lead them towards self-examination. Instead of getting caught up with the function and duty of 'family' these souls will often be seen to be the 'black sheep' or viewed as different or eccentric by other members of the biological family.
Although these circumstances may lead to difficult personal challenges, the lessons are almost always internal rather than external. This means that there will be an emphasis on self-acceptance. Self-acceptance is an integral part of soul development. If we were to liken the Earth experience to education, mastering self-acceptance is equivalent to studying for your doctorate. Once you have self-acceptance under your belt, you are pretty much on the home run!
"Why do so many of us search endlessly for the 'one true love' in the hope of finding our soul mate?"
What you are looking for is acceptance. You believe that this 'one true love' will accept you without conditions. Your search for that one is in fact the search for self-acceptance. Each relationship is there to provide you with a new opportunity to know yourself. It is through knowing yourself that you can then grow to accept yourself and to love yourself. The one true love is self-love; there is no other love.
The greatest secret of all, discovered by the Christ and the Buddha and many others, was the secret of falling in love with the self. When you love the self, you are in a state of acceptance, total acceptance. As you accept, you cease resisting the world and all that is in it. As you give up resistance, you allow everything to be as it is. As you allow everything to be as it is, God can work through you. It is at this point that you can say, "I and the Father are one," for you will be at one with the source of all life. You will be at one with love!
Excerpt from "Omni Reveals The Four Principles of Creation", © John L. Payne 2001;
published by Findhorn Press, Scotland. www.findhornpress .com -
Beings of Light / Human Angels
Beings of Light
During each of our journeys, there are those inevitable moments when someone comes into our life at precisely the right time and says or does precisely the right thing. Their words or actions may help us perceive ourselves more clearly, remind us that everything will turn out for the best, help us cope, or see us through difficult situations. These people are human angels – individuals designated by the universe to be of service to those in need at specific points in time. Some human angels make a commitment before their births to make a positive contribution to the world at a particular moment. Others were chosen by the universe. All human angels, however, come into our lives when we least expect them and when we can most benefit from their presence.
A few of the human angels we may encounter are in professions where helping others is an everyday occurrence. But most of them are regular people, going about their daily lives until called upon to be in the right place at the right time to bring peace, joy, help, or heal someone when they most need it. You may have met a human angel in the form of a teacher who gave you a piece of advice that touched your soul and influenced your path. The person that momentarily stopped you to say hello on the street, delaying you long enough to avoid an oncoming car or a collision, is also a human angel. They may offer nothing more than a kind word or a smile, but they will offer it when you can draw the most strength and support from their simple action.
You may be a human angel yet not know it. Your fate or intuition may guide you toward other people’s challenging or distressing situations, leading you to infer that you simply have bad luck. But recognizing yourself as a human angel can help you deal with the pain you see and understand that you are there to help and comfort others during their times of need. Human angels give of their inner light to all who need it, coming into our lives and often changing us forever. Their task has its challenges, but it is they that have the power to teach, bring us joy, and comfort us in times of despair. -
Shifting into Gratitude
Shifting into Gratitude
The Question of Worthiness
We all know what it’s like to finally get something we want, only to find ourselves feeling as if we don’t deserve it. Whether it’s a car, a new job, or a date with someone wonderful, we suddenly feel as if we are not up to it. Something in us wants to reject this gift from the universe, perhaps because it requires that we think of ourselves in a new way or makes us question why we should have something that others don’t have. If these feelings of unworthiness are not consciously acknowledged, they can lead us to sabotage ourselves out of the gift being offered. Perhaps the best way to avoid rejection and sabotage is to simply shift into a state of gratitude, bypassing the question of worthiness altogether.
The question of whether we or anyone else deserves something is not really in our jurisdiction. These themes play themselves out in ways we can’t fully comprehend—on the level of the soul, over the course of many lifetimes. What we do know is that the universe has its own way of shifting the balance over the course of time so that all things are ultimately fair. We can trust in this process and understand that when a gift comes our way, it is because we are meant to have it. Otherwise, it would not be available to us. Accepting the gift with gratitude and using it to the best of our ability is true humility.
When we receive a gift and find that feelings of unworthiness crop up, we can simply acknowledge the feelings and then remind ourselves that they are beside the point. We might say to ourselves, "I am meant to have this." As we allow ourselves to accept the gift, we might feel tenderness in our hearts that naturally shifts into a deep feeling of gratitude. As we sit for a moment, consciously holding the gift in our hands or in our hearts, we say "yes" to the universe’s many blessings, and we also say "thank you."
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Growing Day by Day
Growing Day by Day
Becoming a Better Person
At some point in our lives, many of us find ourselves overcome with the desire to become better people. While we are all uniquely capable of navigating this world, we may nonetheless feel driven to grow, expand, and change. This innate need for personal expansion can lead us down many paths as we develop within the context of our individual lives. Yet the initial steps that can put us on the road to evolution are not always clear. We understand that we want to be better but have no clear definition of “better.” To ease this often frustrating uncertainty, we can take small steps, keeping our own concept of growth in mind rather than allowing others to direct the course of our journey. And we should accept that change won’t happen overnight—we may not recognize the transformations taking place within us at first.
Becoming a better person in your own eyes is a whole-life project, and thus you should focus your step-by-step efforts on multiple areas of your existence. Since you likely know innately which qualities you consider good, growing as an individual is simply a matter of making an effort to do good whenever possible. Respect should be a key element of your efforts. When you acknowledge that all people are deserving of compassion, consideration, and dignity, you are naturally more apt to treat them in the manner you yourself wish to be treated. You will intuitively become a more active listener, universally helpful, and truthful. Going the extra mile in all you do can also facilitate evolution. Approaching your everyday duties with an upbeat attitude and positive expectations can help you make the world a brighter, more cheerful place. Finally, coming to terms with your values and then abiding by them will enable you to introduce a new degree of integrity and dignity into your l! ife.
As you endeavor to develop yourself further, you can take pride not only in your successes, but also in the fact that you are cultivating consciousness within yourself through your choices, actions, and behaviors. While you may never feel you have reached the pinnacles of awareness you hope to achieve, you can make the most of this creative process of transformation. Becoming a better person is your choice and is a natural progression in your journey of self-awareness. -
Inner Spirit - Herfst picknick
Al geruime tijd groeit er een plan om ook in de Antwerpse Kempen wat meer leven in de brouwerij te brengen op een heel gemoedelijke en gezellige manier.
Dus hier komt ie !
Inner Spirit organiseert:
Een superkeigezellige herfstpicknick
Wanneer? Zaterdag 10 oktober 2009 vanaf 14u
Waar? Zandhovensteenweg Oelegem
Deelname: 6 euro
Route: heel makkelijk te vinden !
E34 – afslag 19: Oelegem richting schilde/Ranst – sla dan linksaf zandhovensesteenweg richting zandhoven – een paar 100 meter verder zal u de inrit vinden aan uw linkerkant (er zullen plaatjes hangen met picknick op)
Op het programma staat:
• socializing
• picknick -potluck style-
• klein optreden Ierse dans door Rince Campinia met workshop initiatie
• drumcirkel – dans/chants
• wensverbranding en reflectie
• muziek
• gezellig nakaarten bij het kampvuur
• Voor de kinderen zal er knutselgerief aanwezig zijn
Vraagje: Iemand zin om kindergrime te doen die dag?
Mail me even op Els.Goris@telenet.be
Praktische informatie:
Wat breng je mee?
Picknickdeken en eventueel een kussentje
Eigen bord en bestek
Muziekinstrument (drum-gitaar of iets dergelijks waar geluid uitkomt)
Een paar blokjes droog hout (maar mogen er altijd meer dan een paar zijn)
1 potluck gerecht voor het aantal personen dat je meebrengt
bijvoorbeeld:
pastasalade (vis, vlees, champions of veggie) of rijstsalade (vis, vlees, champions of veggie) of groentesalade (nootjes of pitjes) of aardappelsla (natuur of met ham) of
frikadellen met kriekskes of
dessert (bijvoorbeeld cake of fruitsla)
… dit wordt dan in buffetvorm gedeeld met iedereen…
een warme trui ! het is al oktober !
uiteraard je zonnig humeur !
Wat is er aanwezig?
Voldoende parking !
Een lekker knetterend kampvuur
Supergezellige sfeer
Frisdranken, fruitsap, bier, wijn, koffie en thee
Lekkere hete verse soep met brood
We zullen werken met bonnetjes aan de democratische prijs van 1€
Vooraf inschrijven!
Hebben we je warm gekregen kan je je vanaf nu inschrijven ! Ik kijk er in ieder geval naar uit jullie daar allemaal te mogen begroeten !
Mail naar Els.Goris@telenet.be met vermelding van hoeveel personen en je gerecht… dat laatste om een beetje overzicht te houden dat we bijvoorbeeld niet enkel rijst en desserts hebben die dag
Inschrijven kan je door 6 € per persoon over te schrijven voor 3 oktober op rekeningnummer 733-3500021-97 op naam van Els Goris
Met de vermelding van Picknick + aantal personen + je gerecht
Je zal dan een bevestigingsmail krijgen na ontvangst
Hebben jullie nog vragen dan mag je ons altijd mailen !
Ambiorix Bradan/Bart : druids@skynet.be of
Angelina Lavender/Elske : Els.Goris@telenet.be
Tot dan allemaal !
Warme groetjes Inner spirit team -
For you / John Denver
For You /John Denver
Written as a personal tribute to his beloved wife
Just to look in your eyes again
Just to lay in your arms
Just to be the first one always there for you
Just to live in your laughter
Just to sing in your heart
Just to be everyone of your dreams come true
Just to sit by your windows
Just to touch in the night
Just to offer a prayer each day for you
Just to long for your kisses
Just to dream of your sighs
Just to know that I'd give my life for you.
For you all the rest of my life
For you all the best of my life
For you alone, only for you.
Just to wake up each morning
Just to you by my side
Just to know that you're never really far away
Just a reason for living
Just to say I adore
Just to know that you're here in my heart to stay.
For you all the rest of my life
For you all the best of my life
For you alone, only for you.
Just the words of a love song
Just the beat of my heart
Just the pledge of my life, my love for you. -
Maan van de roos
MAAN VAN DE ROOS
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De Maan van de Roos is de maan waarbij we iets moeten offeren. We moeten iets opgeven om ruimte te maken voor iets nieuws. Er zijn altijd dingen in ons leven die we zullen moeten opgeven om iets anders te kunnen behouden. Je kan je voornemen om iets aan jezelf te veranderen, maar meestal zal je dan toch iets moet opofferen om deze nieuwe houding te krijgen. Dit zal meestal niet zonder slag of stoot gaan, iets wat al lang vastzit bij je zal je offers kosten om dat te veranderen. Met vallen en opstaan zul je het uiteindelijk bereiken, maar dat vallen en opstaan kost je offers.
Met deze maan kun je een besluit nemen om iets te offeren om daardoor iets nieuws te kunnen ontvangen. Deze maan is ook uitermate geschikt om je dankbaarheid uit te drukken voor het feit dat de natuur weer zoveel overvloed geeft. Het offeren dat je deze maan kunt doen, kan soms best moeilijk en emotioneel zijn. Het zijn tenslotte toch items die je offert die al lange tijd bij je horen, die je al een lange tijd vast hebt gehouden en waar je je veilig bij hebt gevoeld.
Ook al zijn het patronen en blokkades die je wilt offeren om jezelf te veranderen, toch zijn ook dat dingen waar je je veilig bij hebt kunnen voelen. Gewoon omdat je altijd hebt gedacht dat die bij je hoorden. Nu is het de tijd om die overboord te gooien en ruimte te maken voor het nieuwe, in welke vorm dan ook. Probeer je controle los te laten en geen angst te hebben om het nieuwe te verwelkomen. Weet dat je er altijd sterker en krachtiger van zult worden!!
Geef het wel de tijd en denk niet, oh ik offer even dit en dan bij de volgende volle maan is dat wel klaar. Nee helaas,zo werkt het niet, je zal jezelf de tijd moeten geven om dit offer zijn uitwerking te kunnen laten doen. Er moet ruimte in jezelf gecreëerd worden, en dat kost gewoon tijd.
De boom die bij deze maan hoort is de Hulst.
WAT JE ZOAL KUNT DOEN MET DEZE VIERING
v Dit is een perfecte maan om iets te offeren, offer iets om iets anders te behouden of om ruimte te maken voor iets nieuws.
v Maak gebruik van de maan om je dankbaarheid uit te drukken voor de overvloed die de aarde ons geeft.
v Maak een tekst waarin je deze overvloed duidelijk tot uiting laat komen
v Voer bepaalde handelingen uit in je ritueel waarin je je dankbaarheid laat zien.
v Maak een schifting van datgene wat je weg wilt doen, of niet meer wilt, en datgene wat je wilt bewaren.
v Versier je ruimte met rozen en hulsttakjes.
v Gebruik korenaren om de cirkel mee te versieren of in je ritueel te gebruiken.
v Maak wierook van sandelhout, hulstblaadjes en rozenblaadjes.
v Drink rozenbottelwijn
v Maak een gevlochten offerbrood.
v Maak muziek
v Ga lekker dansen
v Maak een liefdesamulet
v Maak een rozenkrans (ketting van rozenkralen)
v Maak een vuur, waarin je eventueel je offers kan gooien.
v Maak een hulstaftreksel en dep daarmee je 7 chakra’s.
v Gebruik de etherische olie van roos om te verdampen tijdens je ritueel.
v Maak rozenwater en besprenkel daarmee je offers en datgene wat je wilt houden( roos staat voor liefde, dus symbolisch offer je met liefde en datgene wat je wilt behouden krijgt hierdoor extra liefde om dit te bekrachtigen).
v Het offeren kan emoties bij je oproepen, ga daar niet mee in strijd, want het is heel normaal als je iets offert dat dat best moeilijk kan zijn.
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Wat is een vriend of vriendin
Wat is een vriend of vriendin en wanneer ben je een goede kennis? Waar ligt het subtiele verschil, ik heb geprobeerd wetenschappelijk materiaal te vinden maar ik kom helaas niet veel verder dan enkele filosofische betogen. Vriendschap blijkt iets heel persoonlijks, erg betrekkelijk en niet echt meetbaar te zijn. Vriendschap is voor mij wel heel essentieel en ik probeer heel zorgvuldig om te gaan met het woord vriendschap. De mooiste definitie die ik ken is van de Griekse filosoof Aristoteles:
'Ware vriendschap is de liefde voor de ander, omwille van de ander.'
Wat ik na alle jaren in dit leven wel geleerd heb is dat vriendschappen zeker afhangen van rationele overwegingen waarbij mensen de kosten en baten met elkaar afwegen. Er moet een zekere overeenkomst zijn en beide partijen hebben vaak een eigen voordeel door deze vriendschap.
Vriendschap is ook een heel breekbaar begrip, sommige vriendschappen duren niet zo lang maar er zijn vriendschappen die een leven lang kunnen duren. Wat ik ook geleerd heb is dat echte vrienden er voor elkaar zijn door dik en dun en dat vriendschappen vaak een langere levensduur hebben dan andere relaties.
Ook lees ik veel betogen en discussies over vriendschap tussen mannen en vrouwen. Ik moet bekennen dat ik zelf meer vriendinnen heb dan vrienden, ik denk dat dit komt omdat ik een gevoelsmens ben en in communicatie stijl beter aansluit bij een vrouw dan bij een man. De vrienden die ik heb communiceren meestal op dezelfde wijze en in dat opzicht is er een sterke overeenkomst. Maar vriendschappen tussen mannen en vrouwen zijn meer breekbaar omdat er vaak andere gevoelens mee gaan spelen of er andere relaties een rol gaan spelen. Ook zijn er mensen die een vriendschap aangaan met als verwachting tot een relatie te komen. Zeker mijn soortgenoten (de mannen) zijn vrij goed in dit (zelf) bedrog.
Veel mensen vinden het niet erg prettig als hun partner er een vriend of vriendin heeft van het andere geslacht. Ik heb zelf gemerkt dat hoewel de vriendschap in een heel rustig vaarwater terecht kan komen als een van beide partijen in een relatie beland, de vriendschap wel stand kan houden en als een relatie verbroken is weer heel goed kan opleven. De vriendschap ondergaat dan een soort van winterslaap.
Zelfs seksualiteit en vriendschap kunnen samengaan als beide partijen dezelfde verwachtingen en uitgangspunten hebben, als dit niet het geval is kan het de vriendschap onherstelbaar beschadigen. Gelukkig heb ik in dit opzicht alleen maar positieve ervaringen, ik denk dat eerlijkheid hier het sleutelwoord is.
Ook heb ik enkel vrienden via Internet leren kennen die al vele jaren ken en ook al heb ik enkele van deze mensen nooit ontmoet omdat ze aan de andere kant van de wereld wonen, is er na al deze jaren voor mij sprake van een hechte vriendschap.
Al met al ben ik blij met de vrienden en vriendinnen die ik ken en zijn ze voor mij zelfs wel eens van levensbelang geweest. Ik ben heel blij met de handvol mensen die ik vrienden en vriendinnen noem en die voor mij zo bijzonder zijn dat ze met kop en schouder boven de vele kennissen uitsteken.
In mijn visie is een liefdesrelatie ook een bijzondere vorm van vriendschap waarbij partners ook nog eens minnaars zijn maar vooral de beste vrienden door dik en dun. -
"This is how every girl should be treated."
To every guy that's said, "Sex CAN wait"
To every guy that's said, "You're beautiful."
To every guy that was never too busy to drive across town to see her.
To every guy that gives her flowers and a card when she is sick or down.
To every guy who has given her flowers just because thats how he rolls.
To every guy that said he would die for her.
To every guy that really would.
To every guy that did what she wanted to do.
To every guy that cried in front of her. ....
To every guy that she cried in front of...
To every guy that holds hands with her.
To every guy that kisses her with meaning.
To every guy that hugs her when she's sad.
To every guy that hugs her for no reason at all.
To every guy who would give their jacket up for her.
To every guy that calls to make sure she got home safe.
To every guy that would sit and wait for her for hours just to see her for ten minutes.....
To every guy that would give his seat up...
To every guy that just wants to cuddle.
To every guy that reassured her that she was beautiful no matter what.
To every guy who told his secrets to her.
To every guy that tried to show how much he cared through every word and every breath.
To every guy that thought maybe this could be the one.
To every guy that believed in her dreams.
To every guy that would have done anything so she could achieve them.
To every guy that never laughed at her when she told him her dreams.
To every guy that walked her to her car and opened the door.
To every guy that gave his heart.
To every guy who prays that she is happy even if you are not with her.
Not many girls appreciate nice guys anymore...
And because of this, there are not many left out there...
I guarantee 90% of the men on your page will not repost this cuz they care more about their image
If you are a nice guy repost this with:
"This is how every girl should be treated."
If you are a girl that thinks every guy should treat a girl this way
repost this with: "To Every Guy
